Spotting Narcissistic Tendencies

I have extensive experience with narcissists and the indescribable way that they can get inside your head and truly make you believe that you are the crazy one. I have learned after many brutal experiences that narcissists have similar qualities that you can recognize if you allow yourself to see these people for who they really are. There are tons of signs and qualities and I could write a book, and might just write a book, with all of the different ones that I have personally experienced, but below are some of the biggest signs that I have found each narcissist processes.

One of the biggest signs that you are dealing with someone wit narcissistic tendencies will be their constant need for affirmation or praise. You can never give them enough compliments or validation because they have to hear how great they are all the time and how lucky you feel to be with them. These types of people have to have someone stroking their ego. My ex wanted so badly to be famous. He did not just want affirmation from me and the people around him, he wanted it from EVERYONE. He not only needed constant attention, he also wanted to use people.

A narcissist is someone that will do whatever they have to do to maintain their image, lifestyle, persona, etc. My ex used me like a tool. When we first met, he had a car, good job, basically everything someone would need to appear like they had their life together. After we started dating and getting serious, he moved in as soon as he possibly could. He made excuses why he lived with his mom for a short time. Little did I know, he leeched off of her until he found someone else that he could take advantage of, me. This is exploitative behavior and one of my biggest tells if someone has these tendencies. People like this do not care about feelings or hurting others, they will walk to the walk and talk the talk to maintain their lifestyle. The way they are able to accomplish this is pure manipulation.

A narcissist is always going to have manipulative behavior. This is something that will most-likely happen over time, gradually, and sometimes, you will not even notice it. The manipulation is to make you feel bad about things so that the narcissist always has the upper hand. They manipulate your emotions and prey on them to get their way. If you are constantly feeling bad about yourself, you might find that the narcissist has manipulated you into feeling a certain way to maintain control. Control is crucial for a successful narcissist.

Control is a very dangerous tendency that narcissists have. The thing about control is that people like this will stop at nothing to get it. It is a scary, tangled web to end up in. For me personally, I have dealt with tons of different forms of control from financial control, emotional control and not being able to express how I was feeling, to being controlled on how I should dress and act. Each abusive relationship I have been in, control was the way it started. When you give someone the power to control you, they will take full advantage of that and it will escalate and only get worse and worse until sometimes, it is too late.

I urge you, if you feel that the partner that you are with possesses some or all of these qualities to do your own research and really think twice before getting in too deep. If you are in an abusive situation and you are not sure where to turn, please reach out to me via email below and I will do my best to offer you resources. Please know that each and everyone of you are not alone and I truly believe you are capable of a happy life. If you need to, take back your life!

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